STOP THREATING YOUR WIVES with DIVORCE

From The Director

Islam in its word and meaning implies peace. Justice and peace are the core of Islam and they are indeed, indispensable essence for human existence. Threat creates among other negative things, a lack of peace and disturbance in the mind of the threatened individual and ultimately the threat puts one in a state of fear, distress and depression.

Islam forbids scaring people and causing harm to them physically, emotionally  mentally and otherwise. It’s unfortunate that some husbands very often use the word divorce as a weapon to threaten their wives especially those from a background in which the society blames woman for a divorce whether she is the cause for that divorce or not. As a result, a woman from that culture is scared to death to be divorced. Subsequently, she will do whatever she can to prevent it.

Thus, men take undue advantage of the injustice of that oppressive culture to handicap or enslave their women. This attitude defeats the purpose of marriage and family. Allah has indicated in al-Qur’an that He created your mate for you from the same substance that you may find mutual tranquility and peace in each other. How can this noble cause be achieved when one keeps bombarding one’s wife with the hated word “DIVORCE”.

Practically speaking, many of those who threaten their wives with divorce end up divorcing them. After pronouncing the divorce, you see them running like a mad cow going around houses of imams seeking fatwa.

Brothers, fear Allah in your wives and remember that she is your companion, mother of your children, your friend, sister and more importantly the possessor of your secrets that no one else has access to, but she alone. Importantly enough, your closeness to the Prophet or how far you will be with the Prophet in jannah depends on how you treat your wives in this world.