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Topic: Repentance
Salaam,
I am a married woman who had an affair (while married). The affair
did not include sexual intercourse, but I did allow the other man
to touch me. Though I have repented, the guilt still plagues me.
I did not tell my husband about this. I am contemplating telling
him. I am afraid to do this. I am afraid he might leave me for this.
Then I think of not telling him and trying to work on the marriage.
But I feel guilty for deceiving him.
I don't know what to do. Sometimes I contemplate suicide. Please
help.
Dear Sister
Assalamu Alaykum
To answer your question or to advice you, let me relate this hadith
of the Prophet to you.
'When a man committed a crime of Zina (adultery) and came to the
Prophet informing him, obviously, the man wants the punishment to
be applied to him. But the Prophet did not want to hear that and
was trying to find some excuses for him so he could escape from
the punishment' and repent to Allah.
Omar ibn al-Khattab was very angry with a man who mentioned that
his "fatat the name that Prophet advised us to call the right
possession or slave woman" had previously experienced fornication
when he was given in her marriage to someone. Omar said "HALLA
SATARTA ALAYHA" Why didn't you cover her shortcoming?
Dear sister, your felling guilty for what you did is a sign of
sincere repentance. Allah loves those who repent to him. My honest
advice is not to tell your husband about what happened, and you
should not ever ever, ever allow any man to touch your body. You
have to stop feeling guilty since you sincerely repented to Allah.
May Allah help all of us to over come our shaytan.
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