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Pre-Marriage
Counseling Questionnaire
We suggest both
bride and groom to answer ALL of the following questions on separate
papers. Submit the answers to a marriage advisor and have a counseling
session with the advisor, first separately and then together. Local
Imam or an experienced elder in the community can serve as advisor.
Contact Muslim Family Services, 313 366-6800, muslimfamily@reliefonline.org,
if have questions or need help.
Please be sure
your answers are truthful, precise and specific:
1. List three
purposes of marriage:
a)
b)
c)
2. Do you feel
comfortable in getting married with your potential future spouse?
Do you think he or she is compatible with you?
3. What kinds
of personality do you expect in your future spouse?
4. What kind
of behavior would you not tolerate from your spouse?
5. What kind
of manners do you admire?
6. What are
the responsibilities or obligations of husband and wife?
7. What kind
of approach would you take to resolve any major or minor conflict
in your marriage?
8. What do you
think makes marriage successful?
9. Would you
like your wife to continue her education?
10. Would you
like your wife to work? If not, explain why?
11. If your
answer is yes to the above question, then a) Are you going to ask
her to contribute to household expenses? b) Will you have single
or joint bank accounts?
12. Are your
parents happy with this marriage?
13. Are you
going to stay with your spouse in your or her/his parent's house?
14. Are you
taking any medication? If yes, what is the medication and for what?
15. What is MAHR? Who gives it? And to whom is it given?
16. Would you
like to make any conditions in this marriage? If yes, what are those
conditions? Be very specific and precise.
17. What decisions
have been made regarding to financial and custodial provisions of
a child or children who were born to either of you, prior to this
marriage? (Where will they live, who will pay for their necessities,
who will make the decision for them?)
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this Questionnaire
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please let us know. We need your input to perfect this marriage-counseling
questionnaire.
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