Causes of Divorce

Following are some of the main reasons for increasing divorces in our community.

Religious:
One of the couples might be more practicing than the other, he or she would like his or her partner to observe as he or she observes. One might not like to have TV inside the house. What about music? Taking pictures etc

Ethical:
This relates to drugs, alcohol and unfaithfulness in marriage

Polygamy:
This is peculiar to indigenous. The problem involves polygamy here is that most of the brothers who practicing it do not have financial ability to properly take care of the first wife in addition to question of justices and the law of the country.

Financial:
To divide financial responsibility between wife and husband is one of the causes of the problems. Islamically speaking, every man know that he is responsible for providing for the family, but if his wife works, it is difficult for some men to understand that they are still solely responsible for the maintenance expenses.

Restriction of freedom and unlimited freedom:
Some men who misunderstood the concept of qawama dictate to their wives when they should go out of the house and when they should return. And how many times they should use the telephone and do not allow them even to answer phone. On the other hand, there are some women who leave their homes at any time without informing their husbands and return whatever time they wish. Both are at extremes.

In-Laws:
This is one of the primary causes of the problems among immigrants.

Recommendations for Prevention of Divorce

1. The first thing both husband and wife should remind each other is Taqwa (fear) Allah or to renew the Iman. How many times did Allah call upon us in Qur'an to renew our Iman?
2. Both husband and wife should remember that sooner or later he/she would stand before Allah.
3. Both husband and wife should recognize each other's primary needs.

Male Primary Needs Female Primary Needs

1. To be loved To be loved
2. To be accepted To be cared for
3. To be appreciated To be understood
4. To be obeyed To be respected

4. Wives should accept the leadership of their husbands, because Allah gave him that
5. Men should not misuse the qawama. It's shura.
6. Couples should remember that divorce does not only affect them but it affects their extending relatives and entire Muslim community in one-way or another.
7. Couples should remember that it's haram to jeopardize the future of their children
8. Husband and wife should remember patience is the key to Iman and a happy marriage

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